The Kink and Fetish of Chris
Last week I got to sit down and talk to Chris Vincent about breaking down his walls of shame to explore his kink, fetish fantasies and “sub” side.
Tell us a little about Chris Vincent.
Shortly; I’m a half Danish, half Italian, full-blooded Silly Rabbit with a taste for kink, photography and scruffy men.
The slightly longer story is that after realizing I wasn’t feeling happy in Copenhagen, I abandoned everything and tried to re-discover myself in Amsterdam.
That turned out to be the best decision of my life.
Through the kink and fetish scene of Amsterdam, I learned to slowly let go of a lot of shame, stop worrying too much about what people think of my actions, and generally just have more fun in my life.
I earn a living from translating cartoons and creative projects here and there and try to travel and collaborate with people wherever I can.
What are you passionate about?
This is, strangely enough, a very difficult question for me to answer. I know the easiest thing would be to mention photography, or traveling or sex, but to be honest I think those things are just fragments of a bigger picture. I think my greatest passion is my ongoing exploration of absolute personal liberation, and in leading by example, hope to inspire others to do more of what they love, regardless of what other people think or say.
I saw you in an interview where you said you are now exploring your “sub” side more. Can you tell us about that?
It sounds rather mundane to “explore one’s sub side”, but in all honesty, I’ve never fully committed to exploring that part of me because of shame, as I also mentioned in said interview. Now I’ve just come to a point where I dare commit (and admit) to the fact that it is indeed what I’m currently exploring.
What I dislike about having to word this, though, is that even though we need these labels to understand and decode each other to figure out if we are a potential match or not, I find that many times labeling ourselves is more restraining than helpful (something that also transcends sexual labels, I’ve learned). The age-old question “into?” for instance, truthfully has a super fluent answer for me. Depending on the connection I have with a person, what I’m into can vary a whole lot.
The sub-exploration for me is much more about dedication to someone else’s pleasure, also from an emotional and mental point of view.
You have a lot of artistic photography on your Instagram, are you an artist, model, photographer, or all of the above?
Why thank you! Well, I guess technically all of the above? As I mentioned in the previous question, sometimes, specific labels can be limiting. To be quite honest I’ve dealt (and still deal) with a lot of self-doubt (don’t we all, honestly?), and every time I’ve tried to identify as one thing in the past, like an actor, a photographer, a model, it all came with a huge amount of expectations that I didn’t feel I could live up to. After my move, I learned to stop worrying about what is expected of me and just do more of what makes me happy. So that’s what I am. A self-explorer, perhaps?
And boy, has it made me happy.
What is next for Chris Vincent?
Well, having flirted with the idea of adult filmmaking for quite a long time, I finally got an offer I couldn’t refuse — working with Noel Alejandro. He’s an indie gay erotica filmmaker who makes visually stunning films, and when I saw his work now more than two years ago, I told myself that if I was EVER going to try this, I’d work with him first. So far it hasn’t scared me away, and even though the film hasn’t been released yet (it will in October), I’m already considering taking up another offer with a well-known studio. Time will tell.
You can keep up with Chris on Instagram @amsterdamneddane and stay tuned for part two of the interview where Chris talks more openly about the shame he has experienced.